Resolving Conflict Between Close Friend Or Relative

Have you ever had a close friend that you had a disagreement with and they have not spoken to you in a while? Or, it could happen with a family member. I don’t know why this is the case, but if something happens between close friends or family, it can linger for a while.
Proverbs 18:14 says, “An offended friend is harder to win back than a fortified city. Arguments separate friends like a gate locked with bars.” Think about that verse; “an offended friend is harder to win back than a fortified city.” Someone reading this might say, “I can see that… I’ve experienced it.”
Ok, so how do you resolve conflict between you and a friend or a relative?
First, you need to bathe it in prayer and pray that the Holy Spirit softens the heart of your relative or friend who is offended and your heart. Pray for the Spirit to pave the way for you.
Second, if possible, go see the person. Either go to their house or ask them to meet you for coffee or lunch. This type of thing needs to take place face-to-face. However, if it can’t happen face-to-face, call them. If you have tried to call and they won’t answer, you could send an email or text but, let that be your last resort. But, the most important thing is to take the initiative and reach out to the person.
Many times, when something like this happens, we ignore it. We think, “Oh, it will work out.” We try to avoid it. Friend, putting it off or ignoring it is not likely to solve anything. I realize that few people enjoy conflict but, you need to get the courage necessary and go talk with the person.
Third, ask for forgiveness if you have done something wrong. Don’t say, “I’m not asking for forgiveness unless they do it first.” Don’t do that. If you are wrong, admit it and confess it. It doesn’t matter what the other person does.
Finally, when you have talked with them, if they will not receive your apology, shake the dust off your feet and move on. You have done your part.
There is a little poem that speaks volumes to this;
“To live above with the saints that we love,
Well, that will be glory.
To live below with the saints that we know,
Well, that’s another story.”
Do your part to make things right between you and an offended fried or relative. Once you have done that, leave it with the Lord. You’ve done all you can do.

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